• Phoebe Baker

A Guide to Being Overwhelmed


Let’s discuss the juggling act that is our lives. From work (whether that’s managing a business or being part of a company), to family, to parenting, a buzzing social life or navigating a separation - life can get a bit much sometimes. If this sounds familiar, here are some tips to conquering overwhelming feelings and reducing stress.

On-going stress can affect overall well-being and in turn affect your physical state: sending your Central Nervous System into ‘flight or fight mode’; causing respiratory and cardiovascular symptoms (your heart goes into overdrive); weakening your immune system; not to mention the insomnia – the list is endless. This is why turning to unhelpful behaviours like excessive drinking, drug abuse or disordered eating - to deal with the symptoms in the list above - is common.




General


1. Pay attention to your needs:

· Sharing -

  • Therapy with a trained professional

  • Talking with trusted friends or confidantes

· Stay physically active (The benefits this does to mind and body is unbelievable. This is your time and an activity that no one can take away from you)


· Do enriching things for yourself:


Mental Wellness

  • Meditation

  • Deep Breathing

  • Relaxation

  • Stretching

  • Journaling

  • Gratitude

  • Affirmations

Lifestyle

  • Workout

  • Walking

  • Yoga

  • Go to bed early

  • Wake up early

  • Reading

  • Studying

  • Sports

Self-Care

  • Take a bath or shower

  • Do your skin routine

  • Get a haircut

  • Maintain a healthy, balanced diet

Hobby or Learning

  • Teach yourself a new skill

  • Learn a language


2.Let go of problems that are beyond your control and stay focused on things you can control.

Things I Can Control:

  • When you ask for help

  • Your self-care routine

  • How you speak to yourself

  • The boundaries you set

  • How you interpret situations

  • How you treat others

  • My habits, patterns and behaviour

  • Where I place my attention

Things I Cannot Control:

  • How someone perceives me

  • The behaviour of another person

  • The world and the issues in it

  • Belief systems of family, friends and strangers

  • The way people speak to me

3. Give yourself the space to feel ALL your of emotions


4. Try to avoid destructive activities:

  • Drinking heavily

  • Drugs

  • Angry behaviours towards your ex-spouse

  • Disordered eating

5. Make time for fun.

  • blast that tune and dance your heat out at home!

  • watch that movie you know you love

  • get dressed up and get out with your friends

  • go for that coffee your friends have been trying to organise with you

  • try that new brunch place

  • sing your heart out!

6. Prioritise and organise:

  • Create a list of things you have to do daily and list them in order of priority. (If there isn’t a clear priority, it often helps to do the hardest task first. They call this “eating one’s frogs”)

7. Maintain a usual routine

  • Wake up and go to sleep at the same time every day

  • Regular walks

  • Exercise at least 3 times a week

  • Eat 3-5 meals

  • Practise self-care rituals

8. Journal your thoughts and feelings: you can have more clarity when you bring pen to paper and your thoughts are articulated. It also helps when you are in the process of making a big decision in your life – you could weigh up pros and cons and note down all of the things you have to do to act upon the decision you make


· Simplify your life (de-clutter):

  • Be rid of negative people

  • De-clutter your home (dispose of clothes you no longer wear and items that no longer have any sentimental value)

· Know that it’s perfectly okay to say NO:

  • To engagements

  • Taking on extra responsibilities (we know it’s unavoidable sometimes)



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